SINOJ JACOB

Experience is considered to be the best teacher for life lessons. Failures, insults, losses, illnesses, disasters and so on teach you painful yet powerful lessons in life. Victories, recognitions, gains, affluence, wellness and such kinds show you exquisite and exuberant aspects of living. Based on your priorities in life, the intensity of learning from good and bad experiences may vary significantly in each of you. Apart from all the above, there is a rough and tough yet a versatile and imperative teacher who can indubitably and inevitably impart you the neediest and the mightiest lessons for a lifetime: Empty Pocket. Empty Pocket is the teacher who appears in your life consequent to unwise decisions, unexpected incidents or uncontrollable changes that happened incidentally or accidentally in your past. Anyway, a derailed run during your yester times is the invitation you made to Empty Pocket to your life, for sure. There are advantages and disadvantages in entrusting Empty Pocket to ...

‘Nishkaamakarma’ (effort without expectation) is not just a spiritual path but a logical applicable reality. Let us discuss it for now. The desire does not impact the result. Positive or negative expectations are not going to make any difference in the quality or quantity of results. Our expectations do not make any effect on the results but our efforts do reflect on the size and shape of the results. It is superstitious to believe that positive or negative expectations can invite their corresponding results. But it is realistic to believe that good or bad efforts can draw matching results. Results are objectively neither positive nor negative, they are just results of efforts. But they are either positive or negative subjectively based on the need and context of the affected. For instance, one’s efforts of feeding children may positively help the hungry ones and at the same time may negatively cause vomiting for the ones already full. Though it’s a silly example, it's the reality ...

Before we begin, let me explain two important terms used in this piece of writing. The first one is MEMORIES and the second one is MEMORABLES. The term ‘memories’ refers to all that we remember from the happenings of the past and the term ‘memorables’ refers to all that we will remember from the happenings of the future. Living in the present simply means examining the past memories (beautiful and melancholic) and expecting the future memorables (hopeful and anxious). All that we think and do today are either reactions to the past memories or preparations for the future memorables. Thus, life becomes incessant consideration of the memories and ceaseless arrangements for the memorables. Memories are lessons and inspirations for memorables. Memories and memorables go hand in hand with close mutuality and affinity. The quality of our past memories reflects on the quality of our future memorables. If we have more beautiful memories in the past we tend to have more beautiful memorables for ...

Are you HAPPY? If you think, YES; that's awesome, especially today! Keep it up. And, if you think, NOT; that’s common nowadays! But, why should you settle yourself with something unhappy when you have options for something happy in life? Let me ask: why are you UNHAPPY? There are some reasons for that, for sure: cognitive, emotional, interpersonal, professional or any other. Find them and fix them out at the earliest. Some of your causes of unhappy living can be correctible and solvable; but some are out of your control and rectification. If resolvable, do it fast for a happy life ahead. If unresolvable, learn to forgive, forget, ignore, and get along with them as if you are unaffected by them. You must be thinking that I am impractical by suggesting you to be unaffected with something real and felt in your life. Yes, I am impractical and idiotic to keep you happy anyway. Because I am helpless here to suggest something concrete to avoid your unhappiness. And, that’s why I rely on s...

I sincerely wish you to be intelligent enough rather than being innocent, be practical enough rather than being spiritual and be scientific enough rather than being dogmatic. Yet, I wish you to balance between your emotion and reason, your fancy and reality, or your ideation and action. I explicitly mean that you are not required to sacrifice your happiness to make others happy, to reject your freedom to set others free, and to leave your opportunities to give others opportunities. And, this notion does not mean that you have to deny others from their happiness, to hinder others from their freedom or to grab others’ opportunities as well. Just take yours for yourself and give theirs for themselves. Ironically, the people of this world is generally divided into two major sects by development, not by default: selfless (simpletons) and selfish (exploiters) or you can call them givers and takers. But, what is required today is the unnoticed minority of a third smart sect of people who are ...

There is no complete right or complete wrong. There are only more or less right and wrong. If something is more right than wrong, we deem that a right thing. In the same way, we deem something wrong if that is more wrong than right. Something that is seemingly right at a glance may often not be so in further scrutinies. Judging something to be wrong requires more serious attention than judging something to be right as the former act may invite more serious and adverse consequences than the latter on the judged in case the judgement goes wrong. Hence, it is better not to judge anything if it is not inevitable. Understanding the extent of right and wrong of something and dealing accordingly with that is the best practical approach to something instead of making hasty conclusions about that. Again, our judgements are valid based on various circumstantial conditions like time, place, person, situation, Motive, function, mode and so on. Hence, let us leave the business of judging something ...